Once I spyed that pink line I typed in my information into Baby Center and boom…the day that would change my life appeared. I’ll never forget any of my four due dates…June 20th, November 9th, January 30th, and once again- June 20th. My two mischievous children were both born as the hot sun rose in the middle of June. But the two other “due dates” go by with only a memory of what ‘should have been.’ But I’m comforted because I know that I have a new due date…when I meet these two kiddos in heaven!
But many women ask themselves, “What am I supposed to do on this day when I should have been spent giving birth or throwing a birthday party?”
Let me introduce you to watercolor artist photographer, mother, and AMAZING woman Shalmai Keim. Please read the story of her precious Silas Jude here. It’s the story of her life-threatening pregnancy. I asked her to guest blog on All-American Mom blog because how she spent her time on Silas Jude’s due date pushes us to spend our due dates loving on others in spite of sadness.
I know you will be blessed as your read her words…..
Pouring Blessings on a Baby: What One Inspiring Woman Did On The Date that Should Have been Her Due Date
Today was a tough day. My heart is heavy and my eyes are swollen. Today was Silas’s due date.
If it had all gone to plan I would have three beautiful boys today.
Instead I mourn what would of been.
I had many moments today when I shut my eyes and I would see him. I would see myself holding him as a baby and what would be his toddler years. I would see his big eyes looking up at me and I would hear him say “I love you mom”.
Those little snips are so painful yet so sweet. It’s hard to know I will never hear him say those words here on earth.
I didn’t know how I was supposed to spend my day today. I didn’t know how I was supposed to feel or think. I braced my self for impact. After sitting on the bathroom floor (in tears) with my husband this morning it came to me. The Lord led me to the idea that I was to bless a baby boy born today.
I was to buy some cute baby boy stuff and take it to the hospital to bless a boy born today in honor of our Silas. I also got some thank you cards and special gifts to hand off to my nurses.
My plan was to just drop it off at the front desk. I didn’t want to go up stairs. But when I walked in there was no one there.
I paced the floor trying to find someone to help me but no one showed up. So I decided to head up and drop it off. I kind of remembered where to go.
The scent quickly brought back many memories. I walked up to the nurses station in the maternity ward and told them what I was hoping to do with the gift. As the words escaped my mouth, tears started to shed.
The nurse who I never met said “Keim”. She knew who I was. She said how different I looked from what she remembered. She called a nurse who had cared for me over and told her it was me. The nurse quickly hugged me. She was glad I was doing well and I just thanked her for all of her care.
I was crying like a baby this whole time. I said another thank you, left the cards and gift and said my goodbyes.
As I walk out of the elevator trying to put my self back together, I see my wonderful Dr. heading my direction. She asked what I was doing there, I explained, she hugged me, she held back the tears, and with words of encouragement she said to me, “You are so strong, what a great way to honor your son today.”
Shalmai says of the above:
I wrote the story on my due date, March 27th, 2015. After I posted this I got contacted by the nurse and told me she gave the gift to a mother with a new baby boy. The mother left me a single yellow flower and a card. Later I found out that the mother was a single mom in not a super stable financial situation. So my husband and I felt like God led us this way to bless this new mom and her baby boy.
“This is the reason we do not give up. Our human body is wearing out. But our spirits are getting stronger every day. The little troubles we suffer now for a short time are making us ready for the great things God is going to give us forever. We do not look at the things that can be seen. We look at the things that cannot be seen. The things that can be seen will come to an end. But the things that cannot be seen will last forever.” – 2 Corinthians 4:16-18
Isn’t her story brave? Isn’t it beautiful? Isn’t it inspiring?
Maybe we can all follow her lead. I challenge you to bless another on the would-be-birthday of your child.
If going into a hospital is still a bit too difficult for you please consider these other ideas.
- Donate to a child who is the same age as the one you lost. Perhaps send a toy or book to a local school or church with a note asking the teacher to gift the item to a child in need. Read how one mom chose to honor her son- who would have been seven- here.
- Bless a living child by making a donation in your child’s honor to Bethany Christian Services. They are a leader in keeping families together through adoption and foster care.
- Consider donating money to HopeMommies.org. Their ministry sends Hope Boxes to women who have experienced pregnancy loss. You can even visit their website and have a box sent to a women you know who has recently experienced loss.
- Help a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy by donating to a crisis-pregnancy center that helps provide women with options and long-term support. One that I support is:
Full Circle Women’s Services
Love & Blessings,