Y’all for full disclosure here I was the bride that a). refused to say “obey” in her vows b). refused to be “given” away (I was presented), and c). was one of those women that actually could have worn the white veil in front of my face, but chose not to because I didn’t like the symbolism that I was entering into something without fully seeing what I was doing.
This tells you two things about me. I am an OVER-ANALYZER from way back. Who else worries about semantics and symbolism on her wedding day? It also tells you that I don’t lightly tackle these commands from the Bible:
Marriage is all about love and respect. However, in our modern society we somehow classify submission as doormat status or as Fifty Shades status. Neither are the truth. Or healthy.
So when A Wife’s Secret to Happiness: Receiving, Honoring, & Celebrating God’s Role for You in Your Marriage landed on my doorstep I was a bit scared to open the pages. How would Jen Weaver tackle the dreaded “s” word?
I’m too much of a slight feminist to give my seal of approval on anything that would diminish a woman’s right to an opinion.
But y’all…I am so happy to report that this girl dove deep into the Bible and explains marriage in a modern, but firmly planted in the Truth terms. She teaches us about the BLESSINGS of three strands.
But she also throws in modern phrases like, “pop, lock, and drop” alongside deeply thought-out Biblical explanations.
I think we’d be friends in real-life.
She also negates the idea that submission allows for verbal or physical abuse. This is very important.
“Submission means a yielded heart. Not a silenced one. “
We aren’t called to bottle up our feelings. We are called to share our insights and expertise. Not matter how much it hurts to hear…communication is key. I learned this from my years spent after-school watching Oprah, but Jen Weaver explains it in Biblical terms. And does a jazzy job of it.
The chapters also include super-cute #wifestylin quizzes that gently help us see if we are out of step in our marriages. It’s fun and insightful.
Here is what is being said about her book:
Her book A Wife’s Secret to Happiness(Leafwood, March 2017) is already receiving rave reviews from Jim Daily, President of Focus on the Family, Associate Senior Pastor Pastor of Gateway Church, Allan Kelsey, Author of Breaking Busy, Ali Worthington, Author of A Mary Like Me, Andy Lee, and many more!
Each chapter of the book highlights a specific blessing God wants to provide to a marriage, and the conflicting wifestyles—habits and tendencies in our routines as wives—that attract or reject this divine provision. Jen comes with the voice of a friend, sharing lessons she’s learned as a less-than-perfect wife in a less-than-perfect marriage blessed by God’s more-than-perfect provision.
Described as equal parts practical, challenging, and encouraging, Jen calls wives into a marital experience different from what they’ve known or experienced before. With fun wifestyle quizzes, Bible stories “Jen-style,” and over 95 pages of free bonus content, A Wife’s Secret to Happiness encourages wives to bring Jesus into their everyday lives as wives through intentional acts of faith and obedience.
I highly recommend this book. Perry and I have been married for almost thirteen years. We’ve been through ups and downs but are so happy together. He shows me love like nothing else, and I firmly respect his leadership (does that mean that I idly follow his every whim…absolutely NOT…he respects my opinion and we discuss, but I trust him to lead our marriage). Girls, sometimes we have to step back so our man can lead. And stop mothering. And stop thinking he’s a mind-reader. And realize that neither of us are perfect. We’ve all got flaws & failures. Let’s learn how to enhance our marriages by celebrating the design created by God.
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Jen is married to her best friend Jared and mom to their adorable toddler, Dillon. Jen is an author, marketing professional, Bible study teacher, conference speaker, and a host for The Declare Conference – a blogging conference in Dallas, Texas. She is passionate about sharing strengths with others through her stories of humor and hope.